Do you think love is fleeting? If you think so, you might want to look into the Senior Center. When I worked there as a temp, I noticed that if there are partnered or married couples, they still love each other very much. I often wonder and envy how that love can last so long. When I asked one couple in love what the secret is to how their love lasts so long, they said, “We have to keep secrets from each other. Don\’t keep secrets from each other. Secrets?
So to be honest, I myself could not imagine my boyfriend not having secrets. I think there needs to be a Pandora\’s box or secret room in a relationship. Or it shouldn\’t be as dangerous as getting divorced or breaking up. I asked the older folks at the senior center if they were serious when they said that there should be no secrets between two people so that love can flourish. And they said it was true. They said that solving some problem, anxiety, joy or sorrow together makes the relationship and marriage stronger and more solid.
Maybe that is the stumbling block. Or maybe there is no other way to protect the partnership than to discuss everything. I have been thinking about this for a while and also looking for some inspiration and information on the internet, as I did with Love. I also learned that previously, say in the 50s and 60s, it was almost impossible for a couple to get divorced. Perhaps back then, everyone would have looked down on their wives and crossed their fingers because they were divorced. But I don\’t think the love has changed.